"Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken in right circumstances. Like an earring of gold and an ornament of fine gold is a wise reprover to a listening ear."
This is the contrasting truth to what will be shared in Proverbs 25:23 about a backbiting tongue. When we really think through how to bring a change to a person we love, we realize that it must be in the right setting and with the right words. We must encourage every positive movement in the right direction. It cannot be just a lashing back at the person's imperfections or the idiocy of the idea or the faults of the order.
It is crucial, also, that the person that you are seeking to correct or change or move forward must have a listening ear. Pray like mad that the teen or boss or parent or friend that you would like to help has a listening ear and that you are discerning enough to know when to share the information. If you are the right person, then God will give you the right time and the right words. IT IS NOT WHEN THERE IS GREAT EMOTION ON THE SUBJECT.