The Danger of Comparison
We do it everyday. Consciously or unconsciously, we size one another up. We measure others by their looks, the type of car they drive, where they live, and by the type of job they have. We use comparison like a measuring stick, assessing our own worthiness based on how many friends we have on Facebook and how many likes we have for our posts on Twitter and Instagram. But the sin of comparison is robbing us of our joy and contentment.
The problem with comparisons is that they lead us to make judgments - toward ourselves and toward others. And comparison also causes us to show partiality toward others or ourselves.
As human beings, we often use conscious or unconscious measuring sticks to try and rank others. But the problem with that is that we are all created in God's image and likeness. Therefore there are no "better people" or "worse people" - there are only people created in the image and likeness of God.
Comparisons get us into trouble for at least two reasons:
1. They can make us feel better than the person we are comparing ourselves to, leading to pride. Remember the man who thanked God that he wasn't a sinner? The enemy of our souls loves it when we struggle with pride. After all, it was his downfall.
2. They can make us feel worse than the person we are comparing ourselves to, leading to low self-esteem, which still keeps our focus on ourselves. Although it says in James that God is not a respecter of persons, we do not believe this if we believe God is withholding something from us that is rightfully ours.
In other words, when we compare, we're essentially telling God that what He created wasn't good enough. And we miss the opportunity to see the beauty of God in ourselves and in others.
The Bible says satisfaction comes from doing your best, not comparing yourself to others: "Let everyone be sure to do his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work done well and won't need to compare himself with someone else" (Galatians 6:4 LB). In other words, you can't focus on your purpose and find contentment while looking at other people.
So here are four ways to stop comparing yourself to others and rediscover your joy and find contentment:
1. Remember that you are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Psalm 139:14, the psalmist tells us that we are "fearfully and wonderfully made." In other words, you are God's unique creation. If you ever consider yourself unremarkable or even ordinary, you're not seeing yourself God see you. But when we discover the truth that we are God's unique design, it is overwhelming and empowering. So when you begin to feel inadequate and feel the temptation to compare, quietly whisper a prayer of thanks to God for making you the way you are.
2. Realize we all have different strengths and weaknesses.
The reality is that there will always be someone thinner, richer, and better looking than us! No matter how hard we try, someone will always be better at something than we are. So when we start feeling the need to compare, we must recognize our opportunity to practice humility and recognize the beauty of God in His creation. This past week, at a Night of Prayer for our church, the different gifting and talents of our church staff struck me. And I thought about how each of those staff members' gifts and talents are needed for the church to function well. God in his sovereignty has given us each a set of gifts and talents to accomplish His kingdom purpose.
3. Choose compliments over comparison.
Instead of being people that compare ourselves to each other, we need to be people who champion each other. So whenever you find yourself comparing yourself to another, why not go right up to that person and compliment them about the very thing you are comparing yourself with. Jealous of someone's great hair, his or her nice car or beautiful home? Tell them how beautiful you find those things! Instead of comparing your accomplishments to the accomplishments of a coworker, why not send a note congratulating them on their achievement? When we turn our comparisons into opportunities to champion each other, the devil loses and God is glorified.
4. Rely on God's opinion rather than the opinion of others.
Truth be known, it's often our own insecurity that causes us to compare ourselves with others. But what if you and I relied on God's opinion of us, before we had a chance to listen to our own, or another's opinion of us? Not only are you and I fearfully and wonderfully made, but Scripture also reminds that those in Christ are loved, forgiven, accepted and complete. That means we must use God's measuring stick, not our own or that of others to live by.
So when it comes to comparison trap, God asks one thing of you: Be who He created to be!
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