Marriage and a Million Annual Divorces, Really?
Many will say it is a well-known fact that millions of people file for divorce every year. It’s even been said the divorce rate is over 50% in the church. That is what I have been told and have taught others for years! I am embarrassed because I have believed and communicated this negative, inaccurate viewpoint.
Part of our conventional wisdom is based on false beliefs. In her book, The Good News About Marriage, Shaunti Feldhahn debunks discouraging myths about marriage and divorce, writing, “The actual divorce rate has never been close to 50%. It’s significantly lower and has been declining over the last thirty years.” Certainly the family is in a crisis, marriages are being attacked, and precious children are being washed onto the shore of lonely bitterness. But there are significant reasons and evidence-based facts that encourage us to have hope regarding the state of marriage today. Where are you in your view of marriage? Are you empowered by the health of your marriage? Do you want to move from throwing the bouquet to throwing in the towel in your marriage? No need to fret. Friends, it’s always TOO early to quit. With Christ, there’s hope, and your marriage can be better than ever.
The Bible gives us several enduring truths about marriage. In Ephesians 5:21-33, God calls husbands to love your wives. Wives, God invites you to respect your husbands, even when we sometimes act disrespectful. Both are impossible without Christ and the Bible. If you’re single, ready yourself with Jesus because the statistics of divorce are stacked against you. If you’re a child or teenager, are you a joy to your parents, a weight to your parents, or even a wedge driving them apart?
Wherever you are in life, God holds relationships high -- especially the institution of marriage. Let’s hold it high, too, by being someone who loves people better and forgives them quicker. Let’s not be a statistic, but let’s be significant and remarkable in our marriages and families!
Father, help me to never be a statistic. Help me to value relationships before things. Keep me from the slide of the culture that values selfishness above family responsibility. Help me to be the person You have called me to be for Jesus’ sake. Amen.
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