"Come, let us drink our fill of love until morning; let us delight ourselves with caresses"
This is the attitude of the adulteress that persuades the husband to stray from his marriage vows. Solomon accurately portrays the sexual aggressiveness of the adulteress. She causes the man to believe that he is wanted. She promises and delivers focused attention on him for an extended period of time.
What is sad is that it is this focused attention by a woman that causes the husband to stray because he craves it so much. In many cases if this man's wife would give him regular focused attention, he would be drawn to her instead of this adulteress who will wound and use him.
If a man feels that he is wanted, this becomes a very difficult temptation to resist. This is why a man must put an emotional and, at times, physical barrier between himself and women who are not his wife so that he cannot respond to any hints that they are interested in him and so that they are distant enough to not try.
Solomon is exposing three of the techniques of the temptress that allows her, over time, to weaken a man's resolve and lure him into an adulterous relationship: overt sexual aggressiveness or initiative, focused attention, and the feeling of being wanted. Watch out for anyone other than your wife who offers, hints, or behaves in these ways. They are trouble and this will be tempting.
These are three of the things that a man needs his wife to do to build a strong bond in marriage and a great relationship, but many wives slip into an emotional distance in marriage that puts a damper on their relationship. These three actions – overt sexual aggression or initiative, focused attention, and the feeling of being wanted – can become powerful tools in a wife's toolkit to build an intimate marriage. Wouldn't it be great if a wife worked with her husband to lure him back into his marriage, so the bond they share is strong and incredibly deep?
Do not be fooled, men, a woman who exhibits these three tendencies spells trouble. Get away from her emotionally and physically. Do not enjoy the attention, believing you can break away later.
Until tomorrow,
Gil Stieglitz